On life.

Someone once said:
"Life is a journey, not a destination"

Since life's final destination is death, one should definitely make the journey enjoyable, right? :D

One of those lessons to remember...

I sometimes hear people say it's harder to find new friends as you get older. You really start appreciating the old ones that you have or had.

Over the last couple of weeks I've had some pretty nice moments and some not-so-nice ones. Nice moments: I was lucky enough to meet lots of new friends from all over the world in Singapore and on Sibu Island. I also met up with some old acquaintances who quickly became friends over the course of their trip in Singapore. And got to go online a lot more these days after work to catch up with Kiwis in New Zealand and Hungary! And honorary Kiwis in Belgium.

Not-so-nice moments: Finding myself quite betrayed by some old friends, their remarks, their gossip and their behaviour. Makes you wonder if they were worth keeping at all and if they really held you as a friend in their eyes.

So should I write about the good or the bad? Taking an example from Ryan an old friend of mine, I think I'll start with the bad and finish with the good.

Have you ever wondered why guys like to score points on their mates by listing out all the girls who have ever liked them or even looked at them? And then even girls who rejected them miraculously transform into their 'past lovers'? I have wondered... and I think it's because they're telling the story. Here's my guess.

This is to keep their girlfriends on their toes so they know that:
a) those other girls never had a chance
b) what they have is valuable to other girls too

Nice.

What happens to those girls who become known as the 'bitches' and 'boyfriend stealers' in the eyes of their girlfriends? Well it doesn't matter to them anyway because these other girls are in the past.

Everything is fine until the girls find out. And frankly, I'm pissed off.

I don't like being told that I was madly in love with a guy 5 years ago when in actual fact I immediately rejected him as soon as I got a closer look. In another case, I don't like finding out that people I thought were friends only saw me as some past girl who never mattered to them at all but their girlfriends should be jealous of if I ever showed up again.

I'm sorry but I don't think these are things that friends do.

So taking the good with the bad. I am willing to accept that there will be 'friends' out there who really don't deserve your time and energy to keep.

On a high note though - I'm loving my friends in Singapore :) and let's hope I don't get into 'love affairs' I'm not aware ever took place at all.

Lesson learnt huh.